The guy pictured above (The one in the purple with the baddass Mewtwo fusion shirt)is happiest he’s been in a long time, probably since the wee years of his childhood many, many…..many…years ago. The last year has been a hell of a year, and I’ve learned a lot from it. In my now old age, I’d like to impart some of the wisdom I’ve accrued from the joys, mistakes, and events that have come about this year.
Ask a little more why not instead of why.
Being judgemental is one of those things that seem easy, but is unnecessarily difficult. It’s a lot like setting your pants on the stairs and sliding into them feet first as opposed to putting on your pants the old fashioned way. I would look at people and judge them when they had differing views or did things that I didn’t agree with. It meant pushing away people for…well, no real good reason at all. There are tons of things I do that people don’t agree with, and they still overlook these issues to befriend me. It’s been a great thing to learn. Instead of ask why people do a certain thing, I try to ask why not? If it makes them happy, by all means, continue to do that and heck, I’ve even learned something by joining in.
Aspire to inspire.
I’ve seen two ways to go about this: By action and by sharing.
Everyone wants this, but not everyone applies it. I don’t know how many times I’ve seen that picture on Instagram saying they want to inspire people, but who really takes the necessary steps to do so? I’ve been better at trying to stay busy and reach my goals, one day at a time. All the people that inspire me never talked about it, they’ve taken action to have tangible or intellectual results that I would want to emulate myself.
On the other hand, a good friend has mentioned that the most valuable thing she can give someone is time to share experiences with others. I think this is a great way to inspire other since you have one on one time to spend with them. Inspiring is sometimes done best one conversation at a time.
Being happy is a recipe you need to create.
Being genuinely happy has been a fine tuning process. How much work is too much work? How do I go about saving enough money to travel, but not work my life away? How can I juggle work,school, friends, family and still find time for me? It’s taken a lot of trial and error, but I’m starting to find out how I can achieve all of these things. Sometimes, it means sacrificing things I don’t necessarily want to but have to for the time being. There IS a limit to what we can handle, but the great part is that it can change as time goes on. Finding out what’s most important and fun and ensuring I do what it takes to keep those things priorities keeps me feeling accomplished, goal-oriented, and most of all, happy. Make sure to find the recipe that works for you.
There’s no such thing as “I’ll do it later”.
I used to be an avid believer of letting future Caleb worry about things. What happens when I let future Caleb worry about things is he let’s futurer Caleb worry about things. You can see where this is going. If at all possible, no matter how much I don’t want to do something, I don’t let it go on later if I can do it now. You’d be surprised how easy something is to do once you get passed the initially griping and begin. My homework this semester has never been easier to manage. I’m actually seeing progress across the board. The absolute best part about this is that it doesn’t have to be negative. Why wait to buy things when you can now? #retailtherapy. It’s a thing. embrace it both ways and balance it out.
Messing up, and doing it often.
I would do everything and anything to ensure I don’t mess up or look foolish in front of people. If I wasn’t good at something, I wouldn’t try it. That’s the best way to not get anywhere. That’s no fun. I’ve learned a million things this last year just by putting myself in uncomfortable situations. It sucks, but I’m a little bit better. Being alright with not being good at something is still really hard for me to accept, especially when people are so freaking amazing. But, you learn new things, meet new people, and grow from being in these situations. I guess a key factor to being happy (in my opinion) is making sure you have perpetual growth going on. So sorry, future Caleb. You won’t be getting to many request in the near…uhm…present.
Being my weird, socially unacceptable self.
Being me is weird. I like weird things. Things that don’t go hand in hand with each other. Being me is generally regarded as socially unacceptable. So, I used to put up a front, as most of us tend to do. Putting up a front is BORING. Being a workplace employee blows. Being a model citizen sucks. There’s no reason to not be who I am 24/7, and embracing that fact is THE most liberating thing I’ve mentioned here in this post. I like anime. I like cosplaying. I like video games. I like movies. I like pop culture. I like food. I like working out. I like talking crap with coworkers. I like being supportive of people’s lives. I like making money. I like creating. I like reading for pleasure. I like playing board games. I like staying in. I like working out. I like not drinking, and still being just as crazy. I like traveling. I like dancing. I like knowing I need no one to be happy. I like being with people to increase my happiness. I like all of these things and more. But most of all, I can resolutely say, I truthfully like being me. Do whatever it takes, whatever it takes, to like being you. This is the knowledge this old coot can leave with you on this day. Respect your elders (or the ramblings of a young whippersnapper if that doesn’t apply) and let it all sink in.
-Ol’ Man Caleb